6 Tips for Eliminating the Isolation Factor

A common saying in the business world is: “it is lonely at the top.”   Stop and think about it.  Who helps you see the blind spots?  Who gives you honest feedback?  Who is willing to disagree with you?  Who will ask you the right questions to help you process a decision or a problem?  I have been where you are.  I know how lonely it can be.

It is difficult to place a monetary value on having someone you can turn to who will help you eliminate that empty feeling of loneliness.  Maybe you have an assistant who you trust and share some information with at times.  However, can you be totally open with this person about your innermost thoughts?  Can you share your deepest worries and concerns about the business with them?  Most likely, not.

An article in the Harvard Business Review reported that 50% of CEOs reported feeling lonely at work.  And, about 60% believed the feeling of being alone hindered their performance.  For first-time CEOs the numbers in both areas were 70%.  Being at the top can easily result in being isolated and becoming out of touch with the business.  If you are isolated, how do you really lead, motivate, develop people, innovate, evaluate and assess needs for individuals and the business, and manage productivity and profitability?  Let me answer for you.  You don’t.

If you feel lonely, and even isolated, it can lead to poor decision-making, inept problem-solving, frustration, dysfunctional teams and team members, not to mention the internal stress that builds and builds and eventually causes negative behavior, or even major health issues.  Why?  As the CEO, president, or business owner, you receive less feedback and information, and the information is filtered.  Jack and Suzy Welch wrote this in an article in their Business Week column: “There’s something about being a boss that incontrovertibly lends itself to isolation.  It’s as if every natural force is working to protect you from reality.  Good news travels up fast, but bad news festers in the trenches where those who possess it hope they can make it go away before anyone notices.”

Do loneliness and isolation have to be an inevitable part of your leadership?  No.  There are things you can do to reduce the risk of isolation. 

First, how about your walk with the Lord?  Who in the Body of Christ do you turn to on a regular basis, one who encourages you to love and trust God more?  It is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (ESV): “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”  Sounds simple enough.  Your relationship with the Lord makes all the difference.

For several years I served as the CEO/Superintendent of public school districts.  I was dealing with the public, elected officials, union members, thousands of employees, thousands of young lives and their parents, special interest groups, court decisions and legal issues, and all the politics that went with it.  Believe me, in that scenario you can feel very lonely and isolated.

Here is what I did to reduce loneliness and isolation and I offer these ideas for your consideration:

  1. PRAYER. Developing and building my relationship with Jesus, putting my trust in Him by being in prayer and the Word.

  2. VISIBILITY. Every day I was out in the organization and the community, speaking with people, asking lots of questions and getting to know as many as I possibly could on a one-to-one basis.

  3. BOUNDARIES. I set and was clear with everyone about my boundaries and expectations, as well as my values.

  4. INVOLVEMENT. I made it a priority to get people involved in processes, decision-making, problem-solving, communication and training.  I made sure we put decision-making at the knowledge base.

  5. COACHING. I worked closely with my direct reports, setting clear and achievable goals, conducting regular and consistent performance reviews, and developing a mentoring relationship, using Jesus as a personal role model.

  6. COLLABORATION. I made it a priority to meet with every department once a month in order to listen to them and their concerns, as well as to share information with them.  I learned so much!

In his book, Understanding People, Dr. Larry Crabb wrote on page 117; “Jesus offers us deep, thorough, lasting satisfaction that affirms our identity and at the same time frees us from self-centeredness.”  And, let me add, by building relationships as shown by Jesus, so goes your loneliness and isolation!

I am an Advisory Board Chair for Convene in Central Florida. As a member of a Convene group, you will receive the tools you need for support, relationship building and reducing isolation, while helping you build a profitable business and integrate your faith with your work to make a great Kingdom impact. In Convene we will work together to enhance your business and life trajectory, while exploring where God is leading you.


If you want to learn more about how to eliminate the isolation factor, or are interested in ongoing business and leadership skill-development, consider joining a Convene Peer Advisory Group.  

You can also learn more about CEO Isolation in this Convene Whitepaper, Recognizing and Eliminating the Isolation Factor. 


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About the Author

Bob Spence

In addition to being a Convene Chair in Orlando, Florida, Bob is well-known nationally as a Senior Human Resources Professional, speaker, coach, trainer, and leader. As a mentor and coach, Bob helps business leaders clarify their purpose and fulfill their God-given potential. 

To learn more about his Convene team and connect with Bob, view his profile or connect with him here.